So you have been in a dating rut recently? Can’t seem to find the right people to date? I am here to help. I have found myself in your position on a few occasions and I am now happily married to my Mr. Right. Just a year ago I thought that I would be stuck in the dating rut forever. Here are a few tricks that got me out of the dating rut and in the arms of my now husband:
1) Be honest– The basis for any good relationship is honesty. Not only honesty to your partner (or in this case date), but also honesty to yourself. If you see after the first or second date that the person you are dating is not right for you, do not prolong the agony. Also if they are wanting to take you to a football game as a date and you prefer basketball, tell them. Do not act interested in going on a date that you know you will not enjoy. If they see you act excited about the football game and while you are there they see you are not having fun, they will think that it is them that you are not enjoying being with.
2) On the first date, go dutch– On the first date, each person pay their own way. This makes it to where if things do not work out, no one owes the other person anything. I had multiple guys in the past want to pay for the first date and when I would inform them that things did not work out, they would hold it over my head that I owed them because they had paid for the first date.
3) Make the first couple dates as double or group dates– The reason for this is to make you more comfortable in the case that anything goes wrong. This is definitely a good thing for you to do when you are a single female. It will have a few gentlemen present to escort your date away should he start acting like a jerk to you or getting overly intoxicated.
4) Change where you are meeting your dates at– If you are finding dates from the local bar scene and are seeing that the guys you meet care more about partying and drinking than they do about being romantic and spending time alone, try meeting men either in you church or the local Home Depot. A lot of times you will see that where you and the guy meet plays an important role in telling you what kind or guy you are meeting.
5) Become friends first– This is about the best advice I would offer to someone when it comes to wanting to know about dating. If you are friends with the other person it is easier to transition into a relationship than to start off in the relationship and find out that the two of you have nothing in common. My husband and I were friends for 4 years before we decided to have a relationship. Due to circumstances there was a separation for almost a year. When we split up we still had our friendship and eventually it blossomed to the point that we got married on October 21, 2009.
I hope that this advice helps you with getting into a good relationship. I hope that I was able to help you in your journey to finding either Mr. or Mrs. Right.