Abusive relationships can be a very dangerous. There are a couple types of abuse, verbal, mental and physical. Alone or together, all of them are bad. If you are in this situation you need to get out as soon as possible before you are hurt or killed.
Ways to know you are in an abusive situation are as follows:
One- Control your every move and every word. Your significant other may tell you what and when to say something. He/she may tell you how to dress or even tell you when you can and cannot go somewhere. Men and women both can have control issues.
Two- Demands can become a real issue. He/she may ask you to do things you would not ordinarily do. An example might be when his or her friends are over that you fix supper for everyone and then stay out of sight, unless he/she needs you for something.
Three- Verbal abuse can occur when friends and family are present or in secret. This type of abuse consists of name calling, or telling you that you are worthless and not fit to be loved by anyone. No one else will ever love you. Puts you done in front of others. Any statement that is demeaning to you.
Four- Physical abusive usually happens in private because he or she wants no one to know that it is happening. Slapping, punching, hitting and grabbing, shoving and even being forced to have sex are all signs of physical abuse. Usually the bruises are left in places that cannot be seen. In extreme cases, the bruises will be seen.
Five- Mental abuse is just as bad as the other abusive forms. He or she may not talk to you for days to make you think you have done something wrong. Guilt’s you into doing things their way. Then tells you that if you do not like it, you can leave and when you try, you are stopped from doing so. Eventually you begin to think they are right about everything when actually he or she is in the wrong. Tells you that it will not happen again in order to get your forgiveness and then the whole cycle eventually starts again.
Six- Show little or no respect for your feelings. He or she seems to think that what they say or do to you is okay. Does not respond when you are hurt or crying over what has happened. Does not say thank you for anything you do for them. Never asks please only demands that you do it. He or she may take away car keys to prevent you from leaving or turn off all phones to prevent you from calling for help.
All of the above signs can lead to disaster so you need to get out before it gets worse. Here are some ways that may help you get out with your life intact.
One- Talk to a trusted friend, preacher, anyone you may know that can help.
Two- Make a plan to escape. The best time to leave will be while the other person is at work or out with friends. Only pack what you will need, the rest you can get later. Do not even hint to what you are planning.
Three- Make sure you have a safe place to go that the other does not know about. This will make it harder for them to find you.
Four- Once you are out get a protective order against them. If they come around, they will be arrested.
Five- File charges to prevent this from happening again.
If you are in an abusive situation, please get out. There are people that can help you.