Has modern technology made the hand written thank you note a thing of the past? Is this generation a thankless one?
In years past, the obligatory thank you note was required. Children would scribble wordless notes to grandmothers who sent a birthday or Christmas gift. Drawings and printed names were sent in the mail to dotting grandparents, who sent gifts to the preschool set. Teenagers, reluctantly, would write a one line note to their gift givers. Even though, parents would have to address the envelope, the thank you note was sent.
What has happened to this act of gratitude? One grandparent remarked that the only way that she knew her grandson received her Christmas gift was by the receipt of the check in her bank statement.
The manner experts have retired. Technology is blamed for the lack of interest in hand written notes. The cost of postage, versus free email is another explanation. However, the sender of gifts still do not receive a thank you, either electronically or by snail mail. What is the problem?
Writing notes was once taught in English classes throughout the United States. One of the English assignments was writing a thank you note. Today, children are writing, but journal entries, depicting the happenings of their days. They are graded on the language use and sentence structure of these journals. Writing the common thank you note is no longer included in the English lessons.
If parents, who are too busy to write themselves, do not teach children the art of writing a note, where are the children going to learn this? Appreciation might be too highly rated by the older generation. It seems that the older generation is who is upset about this lack of courtesy. Baby boomer’s do not give it much thought.
Is a phone call or email sufficient to use as a thank you? Most people feel that this works, but there are a lot of people that do not have email. A phone call could suffice.
What are some of the things that can be written on a thank you note, besides thank you? Perhaps a photo of the recipient and the gift could be enclosed in the note. A nice thought, such as , “I always wanted _________, but never bought it for myself.”
Your thoughtfulness is appreciated. If it is a monetary gift, the recipient could say how they are planning to spend the cash or gift card. A small child could draw a picture and send it in the mail as a thank you note.
A note of thanks after a funeral is a courtesy that is still in vogue. Most families tend to send a note for flowers and other remembrances on behalf of the deceased.
Bride and groom thank you notes are sometimes delayed or forgotten. These gifts are usually quite costly, and a written thank you note is expected.
It only takes a few moments to write a note of thanks. It does not have to be elaborate, just a few words to show appreciation. If it is too much to hand write a note, there are many cards that say it for you and can be used. Just remember to be grateful in some small way, and show it to the people who took time to remember you.