This is a question that is often asking by couples who are dating, but one or both of the couples parents do not like the other person. This is a large problem, it is kind of hard to ever sit down to a family holiday or meal when everyone can’t stand to be around each other. Just because parents don’t approve is not a reason to end a relationship, but it can make the relationship very difficult. It also means you can’t talk to your parents about problem that will arise in life about your partner. If they already don’t like your partner, it will only add to reasons for their disapproval.
Sometime parents can seem to dislike anyone you choose to date. This is normally because of two reason, either you need better taste on type of people you are dating or the parents are having a hard time letting go of their child. Ever hear the saying that “love is blind”? This statement is very true. Sometimes you just don’t see what is wrong with a person you think you love. At the end of a bad relationship many people ask themselves; “What was I thinking?”
To determine what the problem is with the parents, a private conversation needs to take place with the parents. This conversation will end horrible if voices are raised. It is best to agree to disagree. This will plainly give everyone a fair chance to lay out what their problems are. It will be best to leave the unlike partner out of the conversation. This will be a hard conversation, but let each person have their own opinion. No reason to interrupt or object loudly, let each person finish what they want to say. Pick one person and let them talk from start to finish. After the reasons are finally known the person in the relationship can make the choice if the relationship is worth it to continue or try to change their parent’s mind about the other person.
Having the disagreement between the person you love and your parents is a wedge that may never go away. Eventually a person may have to choose between their new love and their parents. Many divorces are caused because of these wedges. If you choose your new love over your parents, it can be helpful to put distance between the households. Living a state or two away is a great way for newly weds to start their life without the interruption from family members who disapprove. This doesn’t mean you cut all ties with your family. You can still keep in touch and occasional see each other, but it will be less often then if you lived in the same town as they do.
If you are feeling unsure of what to do, think about getting counseling. Counseling can help you to deiced on what you really want. Family counseling can also help to try to bring everyone closer to each other. No one can really tell you what is the right thing to do as each relationship, person, and family is different. Sometimes the dislike of the other person is just a communication problem or the lack of knowing each other.
When being dislike by someone parents remember to stay polite and use your manners. If you don’t like what is being done or said to you; go to your partner and ask them to speak to their family.
Communication can make or brake a family and relationships. Talking out your problems is the best way to get problems solved. A happy long lasting marriage is still possible even if the parents don’t agree. Each partner in the relationship will have to be strong and depend mainly on each other instead of their parents.