John waited until the last minute to do his résumé. He knew he needed to be prepared for the upcoming job fair, but he felt a lot of anxiety about entering the work world. He simply did not feel prepared or ready to get a full-time job. College was such a safe, predictable world that he was not ready to abandon. Yet, he completed his degree. It was too late to apply for graduate school, and he was not prepared for employment.
John decided to just take it easy. He wanted to travel. Unfortunately, the reality of not having any money nipped that thought in the bud. He knew that he would need to find some source of income because both of his roommates already had their jobs lined up. They were relocating to another state. Still, John wasn’t ready for full-time employment. Once or twice, he sat at his laptop and tried to find the motivation to put together his résumé.
The month of March came. He was not motivated. The month of April came. He continued to lack motivation. The month of May came. Motivation was nowhere to be found. John graduated from college. Then the bills came. That is when he decided he just had to do something. He had worked part-time as a waiter while pursuing his degree. He decided he could do that again. But, he also knew he could not afford to maintain his three-bedroom apartment, or any apartment on a waiter’s salary. He decided to advertise for a roommate. No one responded. He fell behind on his rent and was eventually evicted from his apartment. He had nowhere to go. He was too embarrassed to tell his parents that he was homeless and unemployed after earning a college degree. He had lied to them, telling them that he accepted a full-time job.
John crashed at a friend’s house for the next two months. His friend got tired of him and asked him to leave because he was not paying any rent. John ended up spending two weeks sleeping either on a park bench or under a highway. Finally, reality set in. It hit him straight between the eyes. He began thinking about the strength, perseverance, and discipline it took to earn his college degree. “What happened to that person? That person still exists. That person is lazy and does not want to grow up,” He thought. John had one friend left that he could confide in. He absolutely refused to tell his parents about his experience. He contacted his friend and explained his situation. He asked his friend to allow him to stay with him long enough to find employment and save up for his own place.
“Pearls of Wisdom”
John eventually came to his senses. Some people have to learn the hard way before they get themselves together. He knew all along that he should have spent his senior year preparing for his career after college. He procrastinated. He was not ready to grow up and accept responsibility.
It would have been wise for John to have taken a career assessment during his freshman, sophomore, and junior years. This would have helped him have an understanding of his skills and interests so he could have made better career choices.
John did not take advantage of the career resources that were available at his school. He went into denial about growing up and facing responsibilities. In some cases, depending on the major you have chosen, you should stay in school and pursue graduate studies. You should take this path only if you are serious about your degree and the career you will pursue upon graduation. Oftentimes, students choose graduate school as a means of staying in school and avoiding responsibility. This is not a wise choice. When you finish your graduate degree, you probably will not use it wisely because you did not have sincere motives in the first place.
It would have been a good idea if John had identified a mentor in college, a professor, a resource advisor, or someone to give him a realistic picture of life after graduation.
John eventually grew up. Unfortunately, he chose to take the road of hard knocks. He seemed to have forgotten about the intestinal fortitude that he innately possessed that got him through college in the first place. He eventually came around, but the difficult times could have been avoided.
John never considered counseling. If he had sought counseling during his senior year, he possibly would have prevented the problems he faced upon graduation.
Deep down, John knew that something was going on within him that was preventing him from preparing for his future. He refused to acknowledge it and seek counseling to get to the root of what was bothering him.
We are all human, and we experience stress and anxiety, especially when making major life-altering decisions. Making the transition from college to the real world is a major decision. It is very intimidating, to say the least. Sometimes, it is best to “throw in the towel” and seek help when we feel we are not capable of making good decisions.
John should have also considered confiding in his parents. His parents would have been a little disappointed, but I am sure they would have given him as much support as possible. Instead of confiding in others, he chose to withdraw. He did not make a good decision.