Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. But when a so-called mistake occurs over and over again, is it still a mistake or a matter of choice? What happens when you are in a marriage that is not going the way you planned? Do you seek professional help or do you walk away? What happens when you see your high school sweetheart for the first time in 10 years? Do you have lunch or dinner together? What happens when you have a one-night-stand with a person you barely know? Or become involved in a relationship, while you’re still married? Oops! I’m with child. Does this phrase ring a bell?
This is happening all too often and it’s becoming a bit of a trend. Not just with one particular group, origin or race, but with all races, origins and creeds. But what happens when you are the result of an affair? The words “I’m a love child” is not carved across your forehead, nor is it branded across your chest. However, it can have a deep impact on how you choose to live your life. What person you choose to marry, and how you raise your children.
The year – 1970, the price for a gallon of gas was 36 cents, postage stamps were 6 cents, the Apollo 13 launched, Elvis Presley began a six city tour, the National Public Radio was founded and for some, the year of conception. No, it was not planned. Yes, you may have been a secret for a while. If you’re the result of an affair it can be extremely difficult just trying to fit in. You bypass the stares, the anger, and the jealousy then life goes on. You’re hair may be a different texture, your completion may be lighter or darker, but that’s okay. You may not share the same mother or father with any of your siblings and that’s okay too. Just stay happy being you.
Every daughter wants to be the apple in her father’s eyes and each daughter should be able to have that acceptance of feeling special. But due to certain circumstances you may never be daddy’s little girl. Just be happy being daddy’s daughter. A lot of factors come into the picture when we deal with affairs. The main factor is – the wife. The second factor is – the other children. You may never be accepted by the wife or the paternal side of the family, and that’s okay. There may never be a time when the wife refers to you as her husband’s daughter. Their children may never consider you as their sister, and that’s okay too.
I imagine there are some relationships that have weathered the storm of an affair and have learned to shape and deal with the outcomes. I applaud them. However, there are some relationships that have not and will not get to that point of acceptance. We’re all special and unique in our very own way. It may be hard seeing daddy with his other little girls, noticing the love, the laughter and the sparkle in his eyes. As mentioned you may never be daddy’s little girl, just be happy being daddy’s daughter.