It’s that time of year again, where everyone wants to have a Christmas party and it does not matter how well you know the person they invite you anyway. You have friends that want you to come to a Christmas gathering and family has scheduled Christmas gatherings for you to attend. The people at the office two floors down that you don’t even work with are inviting you to a Christmas gathering. Everyone says, “oh, it’ll be fun”. All you can think is “No, it will NOT.” So, how can you decline these Christmas gatherings and not be thought of as scrooge? Can you escape going to Christmas gatherings where you do not know anyone?
The best way to escape a Christmas gathering is to politely decline the invitation as soon as possible. When you are handed the Christmas gathering invitation or asked about it over the phone, tell the person you are going to have to look at your schedule and get back to them. You do not want to tell them “no” as soon as they hand you the Christmas invitation. They will think that you just do not want to come or do not like them. Even if this is the case, you do not want people thinking that.
Once you are handed the card or told about the Christmas gathering, wait at least a day to get back to the person. You want to have time to think over whether or not you really want to go and to make sure nothing else is scheduled. If you do not have anything planned and you do not want to go, telling the person you have plans and you’re sorry you will miss their party is always polite.
If it is a person you are friendly with that you are saying no to, be sure to remember which excuse you gave them as to why you could not go to their party. They may ask you how your “thing” went the weekend of their party. Be sure to have something to tell them about your weekend. They may just be asking because they want to talk about their party, but it you let them know afterwards that you just didn’t want to come that would be rude and inconsiderate.
If you are declining a Christmas gathering from someone you talk to often, maybe he or she would understand that you do not want to go to the gathering. Let them know if it is something you do not do, or you do not like being around people drinking, or whatever your reason. If you and the person are close he or she may understand and will not pressure you to go to something like that.
If you are declining a co-workers Christmas party that you do not work with, you can either tell them your true reasons, thus everyone in the office will know and will not bother you or tell the co-worker you are busy. A co-worker is more likely to be offended especially if everyone in the office is going, even though you do not know them well, regardless of your reason. If you tell them you are going to be with family, they might understand that a little better.
Declining an invitation is hard to do. Be firm and be honest. If you don’t have what you feel are polite honest reasons not to go, then make something up that will not hurt the other person’s feelings. Consider your feelings and whether or not you would enjoy going. Don’t go somewhere because you think it is the right thing to do and then, sit there miserably until the party is over. You will not have any fun and the people around you will not have any fun. It’s best to decline a Christmas gathering than to be thought of as Scrooge later.