Are you tired of dating the same people, or are you going on endless dates just to start over again? A dating rut occurs for multiple reasons, and can cause boredom and the feeling of being a hopeless romantic. This article will provide five helpful tips for breaking out of a bad dating rut, and find the right person.
Do you have set predetermined standards for your date?
The problem: I will be the first one to admit that I typically set standards before I go on a date based on my experiences. However, this mode of thought will actually hinder your dating pool and potential. No first date is perfect, we all judge, and this judgment is what makes a second date not a possibility.
The solution: Keep an open mind to every date that you go on, if the date goes bad, think of it as practice, rather than a discouraging evening. Every person is different, which makes having set standards a losing strategy.
Do you date the same type of person?
The problem: Dating the same type of person will give the same results, which is not a good thing, if you are reading this.
The solution: Date different types of people, you may find that you have something in common with someone that is your complete opposite. During college, I dated a young woman who was my polar opposite; although we eventually ended our relationship, we still had a great time together. Give different people a chance and do not have any expectations for the date.
Join a club, interest group, or another organization to meet people
The problem: Too often, we rely on the same types of places to meet our future perfect match. During college, I was involved in a fraternity, and although I met many great female students this way, I did not find anyone that was compatible.
The solution: Always wanted to try a local tai chi or art class, but always found a way to talk yourself out of it? Try to broaden the places you search for potential partners; the best way is to participate in an activity that you have an interest in, chances are you will meet someone that has the same interests as you.
Are you carrying baggage from past relationships or personal issues?
The problem: Many of us have not completely gotten over our past relationships or past events that have had a negative emotional impact on our lives. Not letting others in because of past experiences is the reason you are stuck in a dating rut and have not found someone special.
The solution: Resolve any past heartaches and emotional baggage before attempting to date again. Not only will the empty dates bring down your self-esteem, but they will also bring back feelings from the past. Do not tell your date about your past baggage or “heavy” personal issues, until you feel comfortable that they will accept and not judge you.
Internet dating sites
The problem: Have you tried an Internet-dating website lately? Probably not, Internet-dating sites can give you a unique pool of potential dates that match your own interests.
The solution: Websites such as Yahoo! Personals, match.com, and cupid.com are great ways to meet someone that you are compatible with. Try these websites out to get a new dating pool of people that have the same interests that you share. The best part? Everyone that has a profile on these sites are looking for the same thing as you!