There is a four letter “H” word that has given me problems repeatedly during my life. That word is help. Help. Help! Help?
Asking for, giving, receiving, being helped or helping: I think it should be easy but it is never easy.
Somehow I seem to try to help those who don’t want help and when I need help I think I can handle it on my own. This is further complicated by not having firm guidelines about when it is appropriate to help or to let the other person learn from their mistakes. Also, one sentence seems to get me into more awkward situations than any other sentence but I can’t seem to stop saying it: How can I help? “Help” is a confusing 4-Letter word.
In order to help myself and hopefully you in this Five Minute Friday issue I’m going to jump in and tackle the complicated issue of “Help”.
AC Helpful Hint
You may have come across some very interesting but long articles, like this one, on AC and think I just don’t have the time to click on all of the pages but I want to read it all, now you can get the whole article on one easy to read page. Just under the title there is a link to “single page” if you click that link, the whole article will be contained on the page that opens. Go ahead, try it.
A Helping Quote
A quote from Great-Quotes.com:
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it’s at the end of your arm, as you get older, remember you have another hand: The first is to help yourself, the second is to help others. Audrey Hepburn
When I was about five or six years old, I was sitting on my porch watching a man stumble down our long driveway. He wobbled and walked with an uneven gait. When he finally reached our porch, he sat down next to me. He smelled of alcohol and his words were slurred. I listened to him as he poured out his troubles to me. I thought I was doing what was right, helping by listening. Being so young, I didn’t know of anything else I could do to help this poor man in such obvious distress. So I listened. I don’t know how long we sat together like that on the porch but suddenly and unexpectedly my Dad burst out of the house and he was mad. He began screaming at the man and he ordered me to go into the house. Confused, I looked at my Dad, with the eyes of an innocent child and said, “Daddy, he needs help. Please, help him.”
I was a child. I didn’t understand the possible dangers of sitting and talking with someone I didn’t really know. I didn’t know or even consider that there are some people I can’t help. I just wanted him to find happiness.
My Dad, saw the situation differently. Torn between protecting his only daughter and helping a drunk neighbor, he did eventually help the man get home. My Dad assured me he would help the man. But the question is “which man” was he referring to?
The two men of the story:
One man was an alcoholic. It is my belief, that on that day his eyes were opened to see he needed help. He also saw he had responsibilities and that he could help others. This man was my Dad.
The other man was also an alcoholic. He needed help but turned to the only person he thought could help him: A child. He couldn’t see the truth that there are places to get effective help.
If you are looking for help with alcoholism, my Dad went to a local Alcoholics Anonymous. I know it helped him.
You can learn more about alcoholism, AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) or find a local group, online.
It takes a great deal of courage to talk or write about certain topics. Associated Content Producer Lucinda Gunnin, wrote an article that impressed me with her openness and willingness to broach a tough subject. I honestly don’t know if I could have written about this topic. I applaud her courage and thank her for sharing her story, Incontinence and Sex: How Detrol LA Gave My Sex Life Back .
Cindy’s article contains wisdom we all should heed: If you need help, get it. Speak up without fear. Others have been where you are or understand and others are willing to help.
Also, I might add some people, like me, are willing to help if they can or at least try to point you in a positive direction.
Gosh darn it…I inadvertently, did it again. I need help to stop offering to help. Oh, not really. To help is to give hope and if I can give hope, I will.
Where I Find Help Daily
This issue of Five Minute Fridays is dedicated to my Lord. He has been my constant companion and when I’ve given help, sought help or tried to help myself and it didn’t work out, He was there to make things right. He has always provided the help I needed but not necessarily the help I wanted or thought I needed. For that, I am thankful.
May your week be blessed with great joy and happiness.
Audrey Hepburn Quotes, Great-Quotes.com
AA, Alcoholics Anonymous
Lucinda Gunnin, Incontinence and Sex: How Detrol LA Gave My Sex Life Back Associated Content