The job market is precarious and the economy is unpredictable–this much we have all begun to accept. Many of us know more people who are out of work than we ever have and worry about our own job security (if we are among the lucky folks to still be working!) Pick up any self-help book or book about creating wealth and you will read that there is an element of trust and belief that is required. Needless to say, it can be really tough to foster that element of trust when the economy, job market and daily news are all sending out signals that all is NOT well.
Trust can be a key element in peace of mind and being able to look hopefully toward the future. This is not easy when a person is watching the savings and investments disappear and wondering how to keep a roof over the family’s heads! Times like these call upon us to find a deeper source of strength and to learn alternative ways of feeling good about where and who we are.
For example, in our culture, we are raised to believe that our self-worth is directly tied to what we do for work, how much money we have, how much “stuff” we own, and other external signs of a culturally defined version of “success.” We are also raised to believe that what we have and attain is in direct correlation to how good of a person we are, how hard we work, etc. What a rough patch like this can do is shake our self-esteem and sense of belief that all is right with the world. With some effort and personal work, however, we may be able to free ourselves from some of these limiting and hurtful belief systems.
Learning to ask for help and receive it graciously can be one of the lessons of times like these. Additionally, learning how to reach out to friends and family or even accept that the universe will provide us all that we truly need (even if that means letting go of some of the props and things that we have been led to believe that we need) can be gifts of trying times. Try to de-personalize what is happening by admitting how little control you actually have over the situation. What many of us do is tear our hair out trying to figure out what we can and could do to keep from losing the job, being unemployed, etc. Chances are, it wouldn’t matter how stellar of an employee you were, how hard you worked or how much you sacrificed–the job loss or loss of income was probably not a direct reflection of your worth as a person. De-personalizing can help you to free yourself to trust that things will improve and a new way of living will be revealed.
Stretch your wings and try new ways of job hunting, raising money, etc. Consider going back to school or starting your own business. All of these alternatives can help you to trust that there are other ways of existing and this builds trust in the universe as a whole. Instead of hibernating and hiding away from friends and family–reach out and make connections. If you can’t afford to go out to dinner with friends like you used to, host a potluck or movie night and experience a depth in the development of friendships. Share with others as you look for ways to cut costs, adjust living arrangements and other particulars that can be directly affected by a rugged economy. All of these HUMAN connections can help to build trust and rejuvenate your faith in humanity just when the economy, government and other “human-created”
institutions and entities may be failing.