I have come to realize a very strange adverse relationship between certain actions and the results that occur from these actions. I guess it would be safe to say that through multiple experiences, I have collected enough research that proves this adverse relationship to be correct. I am talking about the relationship between the amount of attention you show guys and the amount the attention they give back. You might be dealing with a runaway boyfriend. Well technically he is not your boyfriend yet because he is too busy running away.
I am sure you have heard the theory about how if you like a guy, you should ignore him. Well, it is the truth. Although it might be hard at first, it will work. If you show too much interest in the beginning, then he will start to feel like there is no chase, no work needed. And that leads to boredom. I have realized that the ones you have little to no interest in will always continue to try and be with you. And the ones, who you genuinely want to be with, are the ones who don’t want to return your texts, or phone calls. Why is that? Well it is because unfortunately, you can’t show him how much you like him.
Things are so backwards when it comes to relationships, at first. Now this may not be true for everyone or every situation but it is definitely something to consider. This is how it goes: You meet a guy downtown, and he seems really nice and very cute. He initiates the conversation and is obviously interested in you. You exchange numbers and end the meeting with a flirty hug. After a day, he calls you and you two have an amazing conversation, getting to know all of the basics. Naturally, you tell your best friend about him and you two point out all of the potential flaws and all of the obvious attractions. So you finally set a time and place to hang out or get a bite to eat. And this date really made your attraction to him official. So where do you go from here?
Well, I would like to say that if you continue to call and text him more than he is calling and texting you, you might run into a bit of a problem. You might start to notice that he isn’t returning your calls or texts. And because of this, you start to become anxious and worried. Constantly thinking about why he could possibly be not answering your phone. Well it just so simple ladies, you are doing way too much.
Don’t be available every single time he wants you to be. If you make yourself too available, oddly enough he will not be as intrigued. Okay let’s think about it, when you are talking to guy who is calling you every single day and texting you all of the time, don’t you feel a little bit stalked? You naturally get turned off a little bit because of this. Now let’s think about the guys who do not call or text you. Are those the ones who you are thinking about the most? Yes, they are.
If you really want to make sure a guy does not ignore you, ignore him first. It is a delicious recipe that works like a charm. You cannot respond back to every text he sends. You can’t answer every call he makes. You can’t be available for every date he plans. If you are unavailable to him, then he will want you even more. It is something about wanting something that you can’t have. I can’t really explain but I just know that things work out that way. Of course it would be great if we could just show exactly how we felt, and hope that everything turned out the way that we would like it to. But, in real life, things just do not work out that way. I am sorry to say that you need to make sure that you do not run away the one that you want be with.
From experience, if you actually are not interested in a guy, then it won’t take any effort to ignore some of his calls or just look at his incoming text and just put the phone down as if you didn’t even see it. You don’t have to try and pretend like you don’t like him because you truthfully do not like him at all. Then all of sudden, you realize that this guy that you have no interest in is continuing to call you every single day and attempting to make plans with you all of the time. But why? It is because you are not interests. I hear a lot of girls say “Why do all of the ones I want to be with, don’t want to be with me. But the one that I actually want to be with, don’t want to be with me”.
Sometimes you do not have to understand why things happen, but realize that they do and just act accordingly.
So, in conclusion, if you want a guy, make sure that you do not scare them away by being overly interested in them. Make sure that you show enough interest, subtle hints that you do actually like him, but do not over do it. It is not about being fake o playing a game, it just about being smart and understanding how the human mind naturally works and using that to your advantage.
