One of the things that can harm a relationship is if one or the other people involved criticizes or uses sarcasm to belittle the other. Though it may seem to be done in fun or jest, the impact, especially over a long period of time, can be devastating. Below are five things to think about regarding how criticism and sarcasm can destroy your relationship.
1 – It shows a lack of respect. When you criticize the person you love, it tells them that you don’t truly respect them as a person. It also tells them that you don’t believe they are capable of doing the things that you are criticizing them for, which is implying that they are stupid or lack common sense. The same things can be said for sarcasm, which is generally a veiled attempt to criticize.
2 – It makes the target feel small or stupid. Most people feel vulnerable when someone else criticizes things they’ve done. It makes them feel simple and incapable of doing things correctly. It also makes them not want to do things that they may be criticized for. Again, the same can be said for sarcasm.
3 – It can lead to fights. Both criticism and sarcasm can lead to tension between people in a relationship, which can lead to arguments. These types of arguments can leave deep wounds because the target of the harsh words will come to believe they are incapable of pleasing, are simple and dull and perhaps worst of all, not worthy of the person that is hurling such invectives. All of these things contribute to low self-esteem and a feeling of helplessness, which can lead to feelings of resentment. And resentment can lead to an irreversible loss of good feelings towards the person they love.
4 – It causes others to lose respect for you. If you criticize or use sarcasm against the person you love in front of other people, it causes them to lose respect for you. They’ll see you as domineering and insensitive; or worse, as a bully.
5 – It reveals your true feelings. Quite often, when someone constantly criticizes the person they are in a relationship with, or uses sarcasm to hurt them, it becomes clear that they don’t truly like the person they are with. This is quite common, and is one of the main reasons couples split. Though they may still love that person, they don’t truly, deep down, like them.
These five things to think about, regarding criticism and sarcasm, and how they can destroy your relationship, are for those people currently in a relationship, or perhaps have been in the past, and who have found themselves critiquing their loved-one, or using sarcasm to make their points. If you are such a person, and want a good strong healthy and happy relationship, then perhaps these ideas can help. Good luck.