See there is a thin line between being needy and caring for someone. Actually I am lying, the line is pretty thick and the difference between the two is pretty obvious.
In order to stop being needy, you first have to have the guts to identify yourself as being a needy guy. And let me tell you this isn’t as easy as it sounds, but I will help you out by starting out first.
“I used to be a needy guy” – there I said it. There was a part of my life where I used to be needy,and this is how I scared off the love of my life.Then another love. And another,until I found out that the problem relies in me and not in them.
I could be the most careless dude you have ever seen, but the moment I felt in love I would start calling all day long, or sending a lot of text messages, or asking full list of questions. Basically I was choking my women with an unnecessary attention. And since I am a man you will see the male point of view and tips on how to change yourself.
Before I start let me remind you, that being needy is a habit, so it will take a while before you get rid of it. You have to be persistent and willing to change. If that doesn’t seem so hard to do, feel free to read on.
First and most important, always and always be yourself. Women really want to see the real you, so stop trying to act cool, or act charming or whatever.If you are funny, be funny, if you are shy be shy,if you are nerdy, be nerdy.As long as it’s the real you, you are doing fine.Women have this built-in intuition and they can pretty much tell when you are faking.
Make women earn your attention. You are a self-confident guy, that has plenty of stuff to do every day. You attention is not on a plate, where women can get it whenever they need to. They have to work for it. A little disclaimer here, make sure you don’t confuse “make her work for it” with playing “hard to get”. Playing hard to get is the part where she showed you already her efforts in order to earn your attention,but yet you are still acting as uninterested. Careful, she might just loose interest in you and just ignore you, thinking you are not worth the time and efforts.
Now that you are into each other, you should start calling her, sending her flowers and inviting her for dinners on candles right,right?Wrong, I am not saying romance is bad, I am romantic, often too much for my own good, but there’s the time and place for this, and it’s not in the first weeks of the relationship I know that much.Again, there are always going to be exception, but I am speaking from my point of view. Start off with casual walks, dinners, call once a day, or wait for her to call. Yeah seriously it’s not the 1900s anymore, women are actually ready nowdays to pick up the phone and ask you how your day has been.
Be the man in the relationship! Wait what?Seriously guys, I can’t tell you how many relationships lack of a man in the relationship.You are a man, start acting like one. Pick the places where you want to go and meet, if you are cooking, pick the meal you are going to prepare. Don’t be always saying “whatever is fine with you dear”. This is like saying “I don’t have a personal opinion.I will do whatever you want me to do”.At this point women know they have you,and can do whatever they want with you. Don’t fall that low.
Last but not least,throw away jealousy from your heart. No, it doesn’t signify how deep your love is for the particular woman. It shows that you are a needy and insecure guy. A confident man doesn’t worry about his woman looking at other men or talking to other men. He knows that he is good enough and better than any of them.This is probably where most needy men have problems, since jealousy is a feeling and feelings don’t go away that easy.Practice makes perfect. Every time you feel that jealousy kicks in, talk to yourself. Try to see how silly it is, and that most of the time, it’s your imagination playing games on you.Relationships are built on trust and jealousy is distrust, so what are you really trying to do?
Become a good listener.Listen to women to find what they need and want.Once several months have passed and you are sure this is the right woman, go ahead express your romance in any way you can think of.
I am pretty sure the list of tips can go on and on, but these are the ones that helped me get back on the right track. Feel free to ignore them, if you don’t find them useful and get starting today if you like them.