Dating can be fun, and it can be horrible. It can warm and exciting or dull and embarrassing to talk about to anyone for awhile. The good news is, it can be better and you have the power to make it better. These ten excellent tips on how to date smarter, if followed can help.
1 – Look around you. So often you hear people say how difficult it is for them to find somebody. My suggestion to these people is; open your eyes. Pretty much every single person out there is virtually surrounded by other people all day long every day. Is it possible you’re overlooking someone? It probably is. Why not introduce yourself to one of those people, or just on a lark, ask them to lunch? What could it hurt?
2 – Be blunt. Say you’re on a date, like sitting across the table from some complete stranger. You figure you’re there because you want to meet someone, hit it off, and hopefully have some kind of relationship, right? Well, why not be blunt about it? Tell this person who you are, what you are about, your interests and anything else about you that anyone that already knows you could spit out in a few minutes. This will not only save you a lot of time, but it would make things easier for your date as well.
3 – Forget about looks. Okay, well, maybe not totally and completely, but seriously, if you are looking for someone to be with, either for a while or longer, wouldn’t it make more sense to look for someone you actually like being around?
4 – Honesty, what a concept. It seems there is a lot of deception going on in the dating place. People fix up their pics for online dating sites, or lie about their jobs, or imply that they are something more than they really are. What’s the point? If you are dating, the odds are good that you’d really like to meet someone that you could get close to and vice-versa. Is lying really the right way to get things started? No, it’s not.
5 – Figure out who you are. When they say just be yourself on dates, do you ever ask yourself just who you really are? Are you normally grumpy, but act nice on dates so you won’t scare them away? Perhaps you’re actually quite the slob, but dress nice and neat when you go out to greet? Well, stop it. Yeah, you might attract someone with your phony self, but it won’t go anywhere but down, so why not just be who you really are and let things fall where they may.
6 – Eat less. Not as in dieting, but as in when you’re on a date and you go somewhere to eat, order something small. The reason for this is because it’s difficult to have any fun after you’ve stuffed yourself with food, especially heavy foods.
7 – Make things clear at the outset. Once the introductions are out of the way, or the initial nerves, let your date know right away what your intentions are or are not. For example, if you intend to pay for a meal and a movie, say so, so your date won’t have to wonder. Or, if you absolutely will not be getting intimate with this person, let them know so they won’t have to wonder about that all night. Just be upfront and tell your date what’s what and you’ll both likely have a lot more fun.
8 – Do fun stuff. So often people choose the tried and true when heading out for a date; go to dinner, maybe take in a movie, lah deed ah. It’s not like it’s a law a something, so why not do something more fun instead? Whether you’re the one that did the asking, or the one asked, it’s not a horrible thing to suggest something you like to do. Like maybe you have a giant trampoline you’d like to play on with this someone. Or perhaps you love bumper cars, or can’t get enough of the local comedy club. Whatever it is you like, why not suggest the two of you give it a go?
9 – Don’t be a ‘fraidy cat. The thing with dating is, it puts a lot of your self-confidence on the line. After all, a date is really nothing more than a meeting where two people sit and judge one another. This causes people to be hesitant and sometimes afraid to say or do things that otherwise might not even give them pause. The way around this is to simply put your fears in your pocket for awhile and pretend that nothing bad can happen to you. Go with the flow and do and say whatever it is you feel. Be brave, it’ll probably work out.
10 – Dig in. The purpose of a date is to get to know someone to see if you might like them, right? So, to do that, ask them stuff. No, not the usual, what do you do, what music do you like kinds of stuff, but things like where do you go when you’re sad, or who do you remember most from your high school days, or what’s the fastest you’ve ever driven a car. Stuff like that. It’ll get into the more emotional side of the other person and will cause them to let down their guard a bit.
These ten excellent tips on how to date smarter can be used by both men and women when considering or actually going on a date. If you are such a person, I do hope these tips will help you have a better date than you might have otherwise. Good luck.