You hear a lot these days about women who want to “change” their man. They say they love him, but some of the things he does drives them nuts. The implication here is that a number of women seem to want to make their men stop doing things, rather than start doing other things they want. The whole problem here of course, is that men are not, contrary to popular opinion, dumb knuckle-dragging cavemen. They are thinking, feeling human beings, just women are and need many of the same things. Thus, if you want to get what you want from your man, it is far better to reward than it is to punish. These ten realistic tips on how to get what you want from your man, can show you how.
1 – Kindness. A lot of people think that being kind is a form or weakness. On the contrary it takes more courage and fortitude than simply being mean. Being kind to the man who means most to you in the world will cause him to not only keep liking you, but to like being with you, which in and of itself will lead to you getting what you want from him.
2 – Firmness. Being firm with your dog means never letting him sleep on the couch. Your man is not a dog however, so you have to be firm with yourself. If you want to get what you want from your man, you have to be willing to do the things yourself that you want until you have earned them from him. This takes both strength and discipline.
3 – Never nag. Nagging is for people that have lost control over their lives. You man will do what you want only when he chooses to do so for his own reasons. In a perfect world, those reasons would be that he loves you, sees what you need and offers it, rather than dodging your requests for assistance.
4 – Be worthy. If you want to get what you want from your man, you have to be someone that is worthy of his efforts. This works both ways. Do you do for him simply because he nags or gets mad if you don’t? Or is it because you just love him and want to see his needs fulfilled. Your man will do anything for you if he adores you, unasked; therefore the way to get what you want is to be someone that he loves and adores so much he will constantly look for ways to make you happy.
5 – Find the right issue. You may feel like you do more than your share of the giving in your relationship, and you may or may not be right. But the point is, if there is an imbalance in how you view this critical factor, than you need to work on that, rather than getting what it is you think you need but aren’t getting.
6 – Earn it. For a man to give, he must want to do so, or he will feel used. Therefore, if you want your man to give to you, constantly work to be someone he wants to do things for.
7 – Reward. Everyone needs a pat on the back now and then, but your man is not just some anyone, he is your man. If you want him to do the things you want, than you have to reward him when he does. Every time. Certainly there are bedroom rewards, but believe it or not, there are others as well. Kind words of thanks, a happy smile, and a hug can go a very long way; as can you fulfilling needs of his that you may be unaware of.
8 – Be polite. No matter how long you’ve been with your man, it is imperative that you be polite and respectful when you speak to him. Doing so will not only cause him to like being around you, but will engender you to him. It will cause him to respect you in turn. Always say please ,when asking. Say thank you if he does something for you. Don’t say ugly things and don’t use sarcasm. This is all part of being the kind of woman that earns her man’s giving.
9 – Support him. When a man is yours, he becomes a part of not just your life, but a part of you. Always treat him as you would wish to be treated. This includes supporting his actions and decisions to the best of your abilities. Be there for him. Offer words of encouragement. Do your very best to help him in whatever endeavors may come. Doing so will cause him to adore you, and men that adore their women will do anything for them.
10 – Love him. Simply put, if you want to get what you want from your man, stop wanting material or egoistic things and just love him. The more you love your man, the more love you will get in return. Soon, the love will become so strong that every part of your life will be entwined and you won’t even notice who is giving and who is getting. It will all be a part of one single entity, the unit that is the two of you.
These ten realistic tips on how to get what you want from your man can be used by any woman who is in a relationship with a man and is feeling like she’s not getting what she wants or needs from him. If you are a woman in such a position, I hope these tips help. Good luck.