Intimacy and sex in general can be a touchy subject. While some feel that love making is just for fun and enjoyment, others have deeper feelings about the physical contact and their partners. Having sex can cause a major jump in a relationship and many couples tend to leap feet first into a physical relationship without thinking it through first. This can later cause regret for one or both people in the relationship. There are simple ways to initiate sex without having your partner feel pressured.
Before even thinking about hoping under the sheets, be sure that both you and your partner are completely ready for this step. Many couples, especially younger men and women simply have sex because they “think” that is what you’re suppose to do in a relationship. They don’t understand until after the fact the consequences that sex can bring if you are not yet ready for that step. Not only can you regret having sex with a partner that you may not even have feelings for, but there are more serious risks involved such as STD’s and pregnancy.
Take It Slow
Just because you tried having sex 6 months ago and your partner wasn’t yet ready, shouldn’t mean that you can’t try again. I’m not saying that you should nag your partner or pressure them into sex, but simply attempting to make a connection with an interested partner can be a small step towards intimacy. Holding hands, hugging, and kissing your partner is important. This doesn’t always have to lead to the bedroom but shows your partner that you respect them. It allows them to fall deeper in love and get more intense feelings that could later lead down the road to sex.
Show You Care
It’s important to show your partner that you truly care about them before hitting the bedroom. This will allow them to gain your trust and commitment. Many partners will feel more willing to give themselves to you if they feel that you truly and deeply care about them and their well-being. The main key to an open relationship is conversation. Talk to your partner and get to know everything about them. A real connection can be made just be sharing your feelings and history. You may have more in common then you know. Bring your partner flowers or their favorite type of candy. Bring them to a place or even they’ve been dying to see or wanted to go all their lives. These simple things can be all it takes to a more physical and emotional relationship.
Your partner wants to feel like they are safe and comfortable in your arms. This includes when they are in the bedroom with you. It’s important to reassure your partner that they do not have to have sex with you if they feel uncomfortable or want to wait. Let them know that you will be there for them regardless of their choice and you love them and will be there for them through anything. Just allowing your partner to know that you’re in it for the long haul can make an unsure partner completely sure that they want a physical relationship with you.