If you love someone and you are afraid to reveal your feelings, not only because you are afraid of rejection as well as because you are afraid to expose yourself, since you have a certain social position, you have to follow certain method in order to conquer the person you love.
Pay attention to their character and do the things they like.
Try to find a way to match something from your life with their lives: you have to have something in common.
Have in mind that only the special person’s personality can reveal to you what you have to do in order to please them.
Of course, you have your plan and you want them to follow it, because you have to pay attention to your position and you are very afraid…
You would prefer that they would simply follow your plan and do exactly what you want.
Your plan is obviously selfish, though: you want them to show you first of all that they like you, instead of being the first one to reveal your feelings. You want them to do many things to make you feel comfortable and secure, while you won’t do much, because you are afraid and you have your position.
However, the person you love may not agree at all with your plan, even if they care for you too. They don’t want to be the first ones to do anything. They don’t want to help you in any way…
What can you do in this case?
Don’t try to force them to do things they don’t want to! This way you are going to provoke fear. If you impose your desires from the beginning, they may change their mind about how nice you are and decide to find someone else, that won’t suffocate them the way you do.
Don’t try to oblige the other person to follow your selfish plan!
On the contrary, be a psychologist! Try to understand what they want, try to discover their plan.
They obviously have a selfish plan too, like you.
If you both want the same things one from the other and nobody makes the first move, things will stick forever and you’ll live expecting something, without going anywhere.
Try to discover what they would like you to do.
Of course, you don’t agree with their ideal… But try to match what could be used somehow in order to bring him or her nearer you, and would be somehow according to what they desire.
For example, they may desire that you’ll simply look at them and confess to them your love… You can’t agree with something like that.
But you can show them in a symbolic way that you love them, when you look at them. You can say words that will have an ambiguous meaning and make them understand that you like them and you want to have a relationship with them, without really saying that you are in love.
You may desire that they will always clap their hands at whatever you do and give you compliments, because this is the basic point of your plan, but they don’t like to make compliments. They are against the behavior of people that keep making compliments and agree with everything only in order to please others. They like to say the truth in a straightforward way.
So, you cannot hope to have their cooperation on this point.
However, you can be intelligent and use this knowledge on your behalf. Since you know that they love the truth and they don’t like to simply show their admiration without real reason, only in order to be “nice” as you wish they would do, make them admire you for real!
Do something really nice that you know that they would admire, without showing them that you are doing that only in order to conquer them. Do that for “another reason”…
Your success will be based on the perfect combination between your plan and their plan.
You have to have this in mind and try to understand the other person’s desires, finding a way to make them do what you desire them to, but according to their style, besides doing what they desire, according to your own style.
The same way that you couldn’t agree with their desire of simply looking at them and confessing them directly the truth, but you found a way to do something similar by showing them somehow that you love them with a symbolic phrase, make them do something somehow similar to what you desire, something that fits with their character.
They cannot behave exactly as you wish they would…
Discover how they could do what you desire though, in their own style.
This way you will prepare everything very well for a successful revelation and for the guaranteed acceptance of a relationship between you and the person you love!