Who you gonna call?
So you want to land yourself a man? Good for you, God said Himself it was not good for the ol’ boy to be left alone.
If you wanted to bake a pie, who would you ask? Someone who has baked one, or someone who bakes a bunch, often and sometimes at the same time. So, who do you think we are going to ask to help you romance your very own pudding pie? The mistress. That’s right, you heard me. We are going to take a tip from the professionals.
Why do some men turn to mistresses? If you think it has anything to do with the horizontal polka, you’re mostly wrong.
Find Out What It Means To Him
Aretha knew the secret. It’s spelled R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Men are looking for respect. Look at what most men value and crave. Power, control, admiration. It is not that hard for a man to find a woman that will love him. It is hard for a man to find a woman to respect him. It used to be that women looked up to men as providers. Now a woman can get most any job that used to be in a man’s field. Women are almost expected to choose careers in lu of staying home and taking care of their families. This has stripped men of their role as the sole means of survival.
Let him stand on the soap box
The rat race sure does not make most people feel special or significant. Let him tell you about his accomplishments. Encourage him. That kind of uplifting has pushed many a man to try harder. Your admiration is important to him.
Let him chart the course
In this age of equality and corporate cubicles men do not control their destiny as much as run around trying to find something to call their own. Can you be secure enough in your womanhood to let him make decisions about things? Ask his advise, let him decide. Is it really that important that we stand on the top of the table and shout “I am as capable of making decisions as you are!” Really, most men know that, and the few that are genuinely bigoted probably won’t be the target of your attention anyway.
Let him do the talking
The secret that the mistress has is that she builds him up and lets him be in control. She finds out what he needs and offers it to him. It is the respect that lights the fire, the fulfillment of his need to rise above the rest, make his own way, and be looked up to. It may seem over simplified, but without having this need met, it is hard for him to develop strongly rooted feelings.
So go ahead and plan that romantic dinner, but instead of talking about the next stage in your relationship, ask him about his work, his hobbies and his accomplishments. It may just be music to his ears.