One of the main reasons that relationships fail is due to a lack of communication within them. It is quite simple to improve communication between you and your significant other but many people under estimate the significance of good communication and never actually realize that it is even a major problem.
When beginning a new relationship with another person that you believe could potentially be meaningful, a set of “likes” and “don’t likes” should always be established in the beginning. However, if that was not something strongly discussed in the beginning, there is no better time than the present to discuss these two very significant elements. You should make sure that your significant other knows what you don’t like, to ensure the greater possibility of not having problems with it later on. When I say things you don’t like, I mean things that you would not approve of your significant other doing either with you, or without you. Basically it would just be discussing your feelings about your guy/girl being in relationships with others (whether it be male, female, family, friends, exes, etc.), sexual dislikes, things that don’t interest you, circumstances that bother you and anything else you, personally, really dislike. Also the things that you really like, should also be discussed. Such as things you enjoy doing, sexual likes, your interests, people and places that are meaningful to you and anything else that you, personally, really like. Once the “likes” and “dislikes” are assessed, it is easier to be more comfortable discussing things with your significant other later down the line in your relationship.
Express how you really feel to your significant other. A large problem that hurts communication is not expressing your true feelings to your guy or girl. Most of the time people enjoy saying that their “alright”, when they actually are quite bothered by something. That is a huge mistake. If you go on letting your significant other believe that something doesn’t bother you, they will continue the behavior with the belief that you don’t mind it. Always, tell the person that you are with how you honestly feel. Also, if you really enjoy something, let them know that too! It is always reassuring in a relationship to let your other know that you enjoy what they are doing.
Don’t neglect the little things. Again, going back to speaking your mind. If something nice about your significant other pops into your head, tell them! You should always let the person you are with know that your thinking about them, even if it’s something silly.
Respect the likes and dislikes of your significant other. Once your partner’s likes and dislikes are established, respect them. Don’t do things that they dislike (unless it is unreasonable, of course), and try to make an effort to do things that they do like. if they took the time to tell you these likes and dislikes, it only means that they care and they are trying to give you insight on how to make them happy and also what makes them upset. If both people within a relationship respect the boundaries set by the other, the relationship will be more “give and take” rather than “give, give” or “take, take”. So make sure, if your sure that this person is important to you, to honor their feelings and let them know that you care.
Communication in itself gets lost by hiding how we really feel. To improve the communication of a relationship, simply just let your other know what your thinking and feeling at all times. And use words, the mistake of using body language and attitude changes generally seem to confuse some and make it hard to figure out the true feelings behind an action.
I hope this was helpful!