Recently i had the privilege of meeting up with an old ex girlfriend from Hong Kong.We had not seen each other for close to 5 years so it was quite a surprise when she rang me up recently.It was even more of a surprise when we both agreed to have dinner together.The thing about her was that when we were together it had ended quite badly.We had been together for about a year before we broke up due to something horrible that happened.The thing about the whole thing was that that is was a relationship i had long not gotten over because of the mistakes that i often made throughout the time we were together.
There has never been a relationship without problems.No relationships are without its storms. Conflicts,misunderstandings,problems and all types of insecurities occur in relationships.It is part and parcel of being in a relationship.The most important skill which comes with time is the ability to spot the mistakes or the possible problems that are waiting to happen.Those who have been in several relationships will know that when you have a catch on the pulse of the relationship,it becomes easy to filter out possible problems.As we are in a relationship,we should take the time and effort to be aware of our partner’s feelings and the tell tale signs that show she or he is unhappy over something.The reason why i had broken up with my ex girlfriend was that i had failed to heed this simple advice.She was going through a tough time when her parents were getting divorced.The thing was that she was looking for someone who could take the time to sit down and simply listen to her.Unfortunately at this period of my life, i had only just started out in my career so i was very much focused on getting somewhere.This is a common situation for many couples where one party is desperate for help while the other party neglects him or her due to work related issues.The truth is she had clearly given me signs that she need help but i was either too blind or too tired to take notice of it.Eventually the pressures of the divorce drove her away from me.She forced a break up between the both of us.Unfortunately as in most cases,the forced break up was a wake up call that made me strive to repair the damage i had done to he.It was too late.She had felt that i was not someone who knew how to stand by another person in times of need.Less than two weeks after the break up,she left for Hong Kong.
For those who have been through love’s wounds and the mistakes we have made.every relationship is full of problems.The thing that makes the difference between one that is heading for a break up and one that is special depends on our ability to recognize those problems.It is the responsibility of both to recognize the mistakes or problems and make an attempt to fix it with compassion and understanding.
