People are rarely ever appreciative of the things that they have in life.Most of us are even worse in appreciating the love of our partners.We often take for granted the love given freely from our partners.That is precisely the reason why that sometimes striking fear into the relationship can only bring the bond between both parties closer.There must be a sense of apprehension that the love they have can be lost at any given time.The truth of the matter is that we are all creatures of habit who rarely respect things that are already ours but once the idea or possibility that our partners could be lost to us,we will become absolutely frantic over them again.It is when we shake their confidence that the love becomes more appreciated.
The truth is whenever you love someone,we are always going to be insecure somewhat.To stir up those emotional passions within,we have to create that uncertainty on their end so as instill doubt and fear in our partner’s minds.Although this many sound like a harsh thing to do but it is better to protect what we have than to watch it slide away.There are many times when a relationship grows close when one partner feel threatened or insecure.Insecurity leads to infatuation.Creating doubt will make the other partner miss or want you even more.It follows the simple principle of the forbidden fruit.The things we can’t have or are about to loose are the things that makes it all the more desirable.Within every relationship, it is important to build a strong and firm foundation but it would be good to plant seeds of doubt.When our partners are unsure of whether they really have us or not,we will never be taken lightly again.
One of the things that i have observed over the years is the power of silence.Nothing is more alarming to anyone than that.There was a date with a stunning lady who had many admirers.If i can remember it correctly, i was the fourth or fifth guy going after her.I had plans to spend the evening bringing her to a great posh dinner,nice movie and some drinks after that.The thing was that throughout the entire date,she hardly said anything.She was aware that of my intentions to woo her and hardly paid notice to me.I was simply just another guy among so many others.The thought had dawned on me towards the end of the date when i realized that my approach to her was not working at all.So in the midst of frustration,i decided to go completely silent on the drive back home.I was very silent during the remainder of the time together.My silence got my date to suddenly doubt herself and her influence over me.She was beginning to think that i had completely lost interest in her.It drove her imagination crazy and made her open up to me.Although the temptation to speak to her was overwhelming,i made sure that i knew to control my responses.That simple act of silence drove her to me. We eventually got together a few days later.
The wonderful thing about this tactic is that it leaves the other partner at their own imagination.The truth is that most of us are afraid of loosing someone or having someone loose interest over us.Learning to use this tactic definitely strikes fear and panic into any relationship or courtship.