Lingerie is for lovers and worn by women who crave love and intimacy as a woman cannot wear lingerie and not think about romance? Lovers and lingerie go together in a special way as it is a form of foreplay that both men and women universally anticipate expressing their attraction towards one another.
It is an unspoken rule that when a woman slips into sexy, provocative lingerie that she has love and sex on her mind. In most circles lingerie is rarely a subject of conversation, perhaps only between women shopping for the day. Certainly women are free to shop for lingerie and muse over what wearing this bra or these panties will do to her husband. Men and women don’t really need to confirm their thoughts or beliefs as we all learn that skimpy, lacy lingerie is an ultra feminine garment that should only be seen by her lover, husband or boyfriend. Certainly we learn early in life by imitating our parents that lingerie, sexy lingerie that is, is worn at night by a woman in private and while we may not be certain what our parents are doing behind closed doors, later we assume that they had sex.
Perhaps it is our puritanical upbringing that prevents us from publicly stating that “mommy is wearing her trashy lingerie so mom and dad are going to make love”! No one denies that teaching our children to use discretion in these matters is a good idea but how long can we keep the secret? Men enter our lingerie boutique and these grown men are embarrassed by the prospect of asking a sales girl where the panty sets are or what do we suggest for his wife. He behaves as if he never had carnal knowledge of his wife and since he did he must be mortified if anyone else knew about it. Many men are simply reduced to child like behavior as they wait for their girlfriend to try on some sexy lingerie.
Lingerie is for lovers or perhaps we should use the term fornicators which is a horrible sounding word but not untrue. Lovers enjoy intimacy and what is wrong with that? Lovers enjoy foreplay and a wife or girlfriend wearing sexy panties , a baby doll should be a celebration of her as well as his sexuality. Instead we are still embarrassed and ashamed that others may know about it. No, I am not suggesting making private things public only that adults deal with this natural part of a man and a woman enjoying each others company being more of an uplifting experience. No pun intended but wearing lingerie is a small part of sex and intimacy but an important one.
Symbols, like lingerie, are important as they suggest to the eyes that she is ready for playful expressions of her sexuality. Lingerie is an expression of her sensual self as she is free to wear trashy, flirty, naughty or sophisticated lingerie. Lover’s lingerie is not unique as women do not generally wear sexy lingerie for themselves although that is not uncommon. Lingerie is routinely worn by women as a means of expression and communication. She is exposing her legs, hips, breasts or simply wearing an expressive color or style that softly speaks or screams “I am a woman and I want to make love”! or I want to cuddle or even “I want to play rough.” Regardless of the message the lingerie is the opening sentence that is unspoken but speaks legions.