Jealousy may seem harmless if it is kept in check. It can get out of hand far too easily though. Jealousy has cause the breakup of many relationships through the years. That is because of the many negative effects that it has on relationships. Jealousy is usually the result of insecurities felt by the person who feels it. These feelings can often be unfounded. That is why it is important to know the difference between normal feelings of jealousy and over reaction.
Here are the negative effects of jealousy:
Paranoia- Paranoia will usually occur when you allow yourself to get too involved with your feelings of jealousy. Every time your mate walks out the door, you will find yourself checking up on him/her. Every chance you get, you will check his/her phone or computer for anything that tells you if he/she is really up to something. If you don’t find things, you figure he/she must just be really good at hiding his/her secrets instead of accepting the fact that he/she isn’t doing anything wrong.
Fighting- Jealousy creates an atmosphere that inevitably leads to fighting with your partner. He/she will be angry that you don’t trust him/her. You will be angry because you don’t believe him/her. You eventually fight so much over it that you don’t find time for anything else. It consumes your life.
Inaccurate accusations- Finding yourself in a situation that you feel jealous can cause you to falsely accuse your mate. This begins to happen more and more often until you end up with a completely different problem. Accusing someone of something that you don’t have accurate information for is deadly for the relationship.
Break-ups- If you can’t find a way to get over the jealousy issues, you will probably eventually find yourself alone. People who are consistently accused of doing something wrong when they really aren’t eventually feel completely pushed away from the accuser. It won’t matter how much the accused loves the accuser, there is only so much that one person can take.
If you’re going to accuse me, I might as well- This is the attitude of many people who are constantly being watched and accused of things they aren’t doing. They begin to feel as though they are paying the price for something they aren’t doing so they may as well go ahead and do it. It doesn’t make it right, but there is no point in pushing the issue too much. Sometimes you get what you ask for. It just may not be the answer you wanted to find.
Illness- Jealousy can cause you to become ill. It is known that stress and nerves causes illness. It can cause nausea, upset stomach, diarrhea and many other physical problems. These issues could lead to more serious illness. This can lead to more tension in the relationship than already exists.
The negative effects of jealousy on relationships isn’t worth the cost. If you find that you are allowing jealousy to run your life, it may be time to seek counseling to find out what the underlying cause it. It could be from a previous relationship, how you were raised or it could be because the relationship isn’t going well. Taking steps now can prevent jealousy from destroying your life.