Christmas is a Christian holiday that celebrates the birth of baby Jesus and is one of the two most important holidays of the year. What if your family doesn’t celebrate Christmas? There are many other winter festivals or holidays in other faiths and other activities you can do to have some kind of remembrance if you so choose.
Surely your kids will one day come home to ask “Is Santa coming to our house?” Here are some tips to try to answer that question.
The best thing you can do is be prepared. If your family doesn’t celebrate the Christian holiday then have some answer prepared for when your son or daughter first asks you about the holiday. If you live in America, there is no escaping the Christmas season. Kids are naturally curious and ask a lot of questions to get ready to have a lot of answers.
Try the honest approach. You can still be honest and give a good answer to the “why don’t we celebrate Christmas” question. Say something like “Christmas is celebrated by other families but we have other celebrations that we do.”
Surely the next question will be “What celebrations do we have?” If you are affiliated with another religion there are festivals for each religion even if they are not necessarily for the winter months like Christmas in December. Judaism, Islam, Hinduism, and Buddhism all have festivals to celebrate throughout the year.
If you don’t have any religious affiliation, you can say that “Every day is a gift and we celebrate giving ourselves to our family every single day, so then every day is like Christmas.”
Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas as an adult, consider letting your child to choose for themselves amongst many different forms of winter celebrations. One night, try having a menorah lighting ceremony. Another night, have a Yule log lighting like ancient druids used to do.
Your child may not like any of these celebrations but it is important that you get them ready to choose what they want to later on in life. Make the curiosity about Christmas a positive learning experience so that they can still enjoy this time of year even if your kids don’t celebrate the Christian holiday.
If you kids are young enough not to notice, just skip the December 25th holiday and have it as another day. If you both stay home from work that day and it is a weekday you can just tell your kids that it is a special day off.
The older your children get, the easier it should be to explain things to them and the easier they can accept how you, as a family, want to do things. You should be tolerable of your family’s way to do things and be accepting of your children’s views on Christmas even if you don’t celebrate in your household.
If your kids still want to celebrate Christmas consider setting up some small token of Christmas in their bedroom like a decorated tree. The tree doesn’t have to have lights and can just be a simply adorned tree with two or three ornaments.
Try celebrating something winter like a snow theme or may be have an opposite Christmas day when you celebrate the summer and warmth and the beach and fun in the sun. Maybe even take a vacation to a warm weather climate for Christmas so it doesn’t seem like Christmas.
There are many things you can do, but try to keep an open mind when you try to answer questions about why your family doesn’t have Santa Claus.