Going to propose this Christmas season? Great idea. I did the very same thing nearly eleven years ago, December 19, 1998 in fact. I can still recall all the details. I could give you story, but you need to write your own. Christmas is a magical season, from the anticipation of children on Christmas Eve to the festivity of New Year’s Eve, maybe even from Halloween to New Years. Even among the blatant commercialism that has crept in, Christmas holds a special place in many of our hearts. Now you are going to ask the woman in your life to become THE woman for the rest of your life, this will only enhance the meaning of the holiday season for both of you for the coming years. Congratulations.
Odds are the two of you have talked about getting engaged at some point in time. She has likely dropped hints of what she is expecting. Do you best to honor those demands. This is a special occasion, and you want to live up to what she is expecting. Of course, like everyone else, I have several tips on proposing for Christmas and around the Christmas Season. I am sure everyone has shared their opinion with you, and if you are still reading this, I am going to share my tips for proposing at Christmas with you:
Do Not Lose The Ring
If you are smirking right now, because this is obvious trust me, it is harder than you think. Chances are if you are going to do this outdoors, it is going to be cold. Your fingers will not want to work, and your nerves are going to be rattled, you will be breathing heavy, and your heart will be pounding in your ears. It is one frightening experience, and you have to keep track of a very valuable piece of jewelry that will be in your family for generations. So do not lose the ring, easier said than done.
Saying the words, “Will you marry me?” seems pretty straightforward. And it is, until you are on one knee in front of your would be wife. So practice a little, speak slowly. Remember, she cannot say yes unless you ask.
Pick a Great Location
Location, location, location. That old saying applies here as well. Try to remember that some women have imagined the moment they get proposed to since they were little girls, you owe that dream some courtesy. Do not pick a place where you will not be heard, try to find a quiet out of the way nook in a memorable location.
Avoid The Restaurant
The holidays are a busy time of year, and restaurants are usually jammed with families and friends either having a good time or reloading for more shopping. Confusion runs extremely high in these locations, better to avoid them for the question.
Try to Act Normal
Especially if this is a surprise, try to act as normal as possible. You will be stressed, you may think you are not, but when that night arrives you will feel a little uneasy. This is normal, I mean, this is kind of a big deal. If the two of you have been together for a while, you are likely attuned to each other’s routines. If you change one thing, she will notice and start to suspect something is up. So try to be natural and relaxed.
Go Easy On the Liquid Courage
Having a dink or two is just dandy, having two or three bottles of wine may put your ability to process things into slow motion. So go easy on the alcohol, and save the celebrating for after she says yes.
Beware The Old School Parents
One caveat for the old school parents, some fathers expect for a man to ask permission to marry his daughter. Not all, but some parents like to be in on what is going on. The last thing you want is to offend your future in-laws, as you will be seeing a lot of these people. So try to take their feelings into consideration.
Do Not Try To Live Up To The Movies
Maybe you are capable of planning an elaborate event a local Christmas display, where you rent a suit of armor and ride in on a trusty steed. If you are capable of that, congratulations. Personally, keeping things simple seems to work the best. Everyone has seen what Hollywood considers romantic; the two of you have your own version use that to create this memory.
Remember to Listen For an Answer
You cannot just drop “Will you marry me?” stand up and jam the ring onto her finger. You need to wait for an answer. Hopefully you know each other well enough that a yes is in the bag, but remember to let the girl process what just happened.
This is a Memory
If you are lucky enough to have children one day or talking about things with friends, how you proposed will likely come up. This is not a competition and everyone is different, but realize this will be one of those moments you both will remember and cherish for hopefully a very long time. So take your time and plan things out, make it special. You will both be happy to talk about when you proposed at Christmas whenever the chance arrives.