Your talk will go smoothly, if you put yourself in your daughter’s shoes for a moment. She is wondering what to expect with her first menstrual period. She may be nervous and she may wonder what in the world she should do if it comes. Take a deep breath and have the talk.
Try to not make it a big deal.
If you have an opportunity to talk without sitting uncomfortably on the couch, do so. If you are in the bathroom together, and she is watching you put make up on, or you are driving alone, see if you can gracefully bring up the subject. Open communication is wonderful and you will absolutely need it in the near future. If this conversation goes well, she will feel more comfortable coming to you in the future, with everything. And that is exactly what you want.
How to start the conversation.
Ask your daughter if she has learned heard about getting her menstrual period at school. If she says yes, ask her if she has any questions. Let her know every girl gets her first period, and it is nothing to be embarrassed about.
What to share.
Let your daughter know you have already bout maxi pads for her and let her know where they are. You may want to explain she may use pads or tampons when she gets her menstrual period, but it is easier to start with pads. Explain that they stick directly on her underpants and she should change them every couple of hours. Suggest she puts one in her purse, just in case her menstrual period comes while she is at school, but the nurse always has them as well.
All the details.
Your period comes once a month, usually every 28 days or so, but every girl is different. Her first period may be very light. Let he know she can not swim with her menstrual period, unless she is using a tampon. Along with a menstrual period may come cramps and moodiness. That may come a couple days prior to the period.
Once she sees you are not uncomfortable, she may not be either.
Ask her if she has any question, and let her know she can ask you anything.
By having “The Talk” with your daughter about her first menstrual cycle, you will have a confident young lady, ready and prepared. Even better, you will have a child who feels comfortable approaching you on the next important subject, like boys and dating or if her friends are being mean and she just needs someone to talk to. You will have opened the lines of communication up completely, and in turn, a better relationship with your daughter!