When I got married I received a lot of wedding advice. Everybody was stepping in line to tell me how many bridesmaids to have, what kind of dress to wear, how to wear my hair, what kind of flowers to have in the church, how many people to invite. To say my stress level was high would be an understatement.
It was then that a friend asked me a very important question. When she saw me stressing out about my wedding, trying to please everyone under the sun, she asked me “Whose wedding is it?” I looked at her with a blank stare and said, “Mine.”
She smiled and said, “Then make your wedding like YOU want it. Nobody else matters.”
What a freeing statement! I could feel the pressure rise off of me like steam on hot pavement. No longer did I have to worry about pleasing my mother or my aunt or my sister. No longer did I have to listen to the women in church trying to tell me how my wedding needed to be. I could have it the way I wanted it. If I wanted to dance down the aisle in a red dress, I could.
Of course, I didn’t want to dance down the aisle in a red dress. I wanted a simple white wedding gown, the most inexpensive I could find. I also knew what I wanted my wedding to be like. I wanted it simple and as stress free as possible. I wasn’t trying to impress anybody. As a matter of fact, impressing people was the very last thing on my list of importance in regard to my wedding. I had no desire to compare notes with friends who were also getting married. I didn’t care if their dresses cost more or if they had more flowers. I didn’t care how many bridesmaids or groomsmen they had. All I cared about was making a memorable day for my fiancé and me. I wanted it to be a day that we would be able to look back on in 20 years with a smile.
Those words from my friend…”Make your wedding like YOU want it to be” was the most valuable advice I received in regard to my wedding. I am so glad I listened to her. As a result I had a beautiful, small and simple wedding. I had a beautiful wedding gown. My husband looked handsome in his tux. I had no bridesmaids. I had a maid of honor. My husband had a best man and no groomsman. We had a flower girl. We had flowers and a heart shaped candelabra. Approximately 50 people came to my wedding. It was perfect and just what we wanted. My entire wedding, (including the dress, tux, and reception) cost less than $400. Not only did we have our perfect wedding, we had enough money left for a nice honeymoon.
Don’t have a wedding to please everyone around you. Have a wedding that will make YOU happy. That is the best advice I could possibly give you for your wedding day.