What truly matters when you put on your Promise Ring? So many teens around the world are making that big decision. Many are contemplating whether are not they are willing to give up the normal. The Promise Ring is a subject that many become offended about when questioned. In a world where the normal is to have sex and party all the time; why would someone want to take a vow that is consider abnormal in a twenty-first century world. One of the biggest boy bands, The Jonas Brothers, publicly told the world they where virgins. Is this a major deal? Yes, they chose to do the abnormal thing and don’t have sex until marriage. They have no idea when they are getting married yet they chose to wait. Also American Idol star Jordan Sparks Made it clear on MTV that nothing was wrong with the promise ring and even questioned all the negative emotions toward the vow. I also wonder what’s with the entire negative attitude towards the promise ring.
The promise ring is such a positive thing for teens, it gives them wisdom and knowledge on life and free will. The negativity makes me question what America wants more. Do they want more doctors, lawyers, and entrepreneurs; or do we want more pregnant teenage mothers, More young mothers and fathers on welfare, or more young people dying from STDs.Many are persecuted for this choice of not having sex until marriage. Some even question its worth. Strong will is great to have in luxury America; but the question is can you handle the temptation. The Jonas Brothers can have sex with any girl they want to, yet they have the will to say no.
When I was introduced to the promise ring I was only a pre-teen in junior high. I attended a Christian academy so it seemed like the right decision to make. When I was given the ring I made the vow to never have sex before marriage. It was easy for me to make the decision because I was not dating and barely talked to boys. It was more like a fashion statement for me. By the time I was ready for high school I had lost the ring and forgotten all about the vow I had made two years ago. When I became a freshman in high school I was opened to so many options when it came to dating. My best friend had already had sex so I became more and more curious. I decided to lose my virginity my sophomore year in high school. Now that I think about it, I do question if I am going to hell because I broke the promise? Will I get judged for a breaking one promise? I do regret the choice, it was immature and not truly thought out, it was just something everyone else around me was doing. It was the normal for me at the time. Having sex is still the normal in today’s society ironically in a country that dares to be different; so different that we have elected our first black president. The fact about the vow is not that you will find the one if you wait but it is the fact that you become a stronger human being if you wait.
The fiction about the promise ring is that it’s stupid and not worth it. I might have lost my virginity before time told; but if I would have remembered that vow I made in junior high I would be much stronger than what I am today. ABC family channel has a show I consider to be of great expertise on the life of an American Teenager. The show is named “The Secret Life of an American Teenager”; it questions all aspects of life as a teenager, the good and bad. I wish this show was out when I was teenager maybe I would have waited before I made such a big decision. You might question the promise ring but I bet the question will get you thinking. Maybe we can change negative into positive and set standards for those who have none. Let us dare to be different. Strong will is Free so let’s start making choices. Are there many willing to compromise the Normal for Abnormal?