As a military wife, you have probably grown comfortable with the military lifestyle. Being married to someone in the military is definitely not the easiest thing in the world, is it? When it comes time for your husband to transition to a civilian, it can be a very difficult adjustment. No matter how much you may have hated (or loved) the military life, becoming a civilian wife will be life altering.
You have probably come to rely on certain things during your time as a military life, such as excellent health care, not having to worry about a place to live, extra money each month for food, and so on. When your husband becomes a civilian again, these things you may have taken for granted will become extremely important again.
Most jobs do not provide such inexpensive health care. You and your husband will have to spend a lot of time figuring out what health insurance plan is best for your family and how you will be able to pay for it. Hopefully, the jobs that you get after he transitions will offer a decent insurance package, but it may take time for them to kick in, and you should be prepared for that.
In the military, you were most likely offered base housing, or giving a housing allowance each month to pay for a house or apartment off base. What other jobs do this? Not many. Housing was probably one of the least of your concerns as a military wife. As a civilian wife, you and your husband will have to make big decisions regarding your living situation. It can be hard to find a place to live that is affordable, especially in the first few months after he transitions. It can be helpful to start looking for a place to live months before he even gets out. This will save you lots of headaches later.
Extra money for food each month is a great deal, especially if you have children or if you, as the wife, do not work. But when you aren’t offered money each month for food, you will really start to see how much that little extra bit of money each month helped. It is one of those little things that military families can take for granted until it is gone. Treasure all of these fancy little exras for the military families now, because when they are not around in the civilian world, you will surely miss them.
However, there are a few great things about becoming the wife of a civilian. You will (most likely) worry a whole lot less about your husband. The military can be a dangerous profession and you have probably experienced many deployments. Those are not fun at all, and the worrying that comes along with the deployments is the worst. As a civilian wife, you will no longer (hopefully) have to worry about your husband being gone for months or even years at a time. You will not have to constantly be afraid that he might have been hurt, or wonder when you might get that next phone call from him. Now your biggest concern for him will be whether or not he is home for dinner on time.
Being the wife of a man in the military is an extremely important and hard job. You should be proud of the time that you were a military wife. But being the wife of a civilian can be equally rewarding and it should be a new and fun adventure.