Pseudo-intellectuals that want to date someone who is “intellectually stimulating” are boring and quite dumb. Why you may ask; well for one that isn’t a true intellectual because a true intellectual can find something fascinating in the most mundane situations. A real intellectual is someone who is fascinated with human behavior and can see something in someone that most casual observers would easily miss which in turn is attractive because it affirms those who society had otherwise ignored. Some of you were smart from birth, but others needed this affirmation to realize their true worth, so why deny someone else the pleasure just because you are insecure in your own abilities it just does not make any sense to me.
Whenever someone says that they need to date people who are intellectually stimulating and that they are bored with individuals what they are really saying is that they are bored with themselves, and they need someone around to challenge their own rhetoric and self-loathing. I never actively chose to date woman that were intellectually stimulating because quite honestly, they often fail to stimulate me in other ways. Whenever they do there is this huge construct in front of me that needs to be actively maintained, because it was built on their intellectual abilities, and when she finally comes out and I can see her vulnerabilities for all they are worth, the myth of her sexuality falls like a house built out of cards. Those types of relationships are doomed to fail, of which “mind sex” is at best a myth for some and a guilty pleasure that is the rhetoric that stands in front of true intimacy for others. Even the best individuals tire of playing the same hand at the same game, and those games are destined to change and the relationship is certain to fail if the interpersonal attraction is not built on a solid foundation. Too often intelligent women can run game all day but at their core are vulnerable and hiding one’s self from themselves, and it is a sad state of affairs.
The problem with the “intellectually stimulated” set, is that they like to throw stones from within a glass house. It isn’t that you failed to humor them, but that you have refused to because you can see them for who they truly are, and refuse to play the game. You are thinking that someone is not up to par, she is playing a totally different game in which you are not willing to learn the rules; you are sexually frustrated, she has channeled her energy into something or someone else. I’m not saying that nerds are not fun, but they are nerds, and for both of us to attempt to impress each other with intellect we are both fools if we cannot appreciate the deal-breaker that is often at hand.
Instead of looking for someone who you think is so smart you should concentrate on someone with enough common sense to realize when attempting to come across as being intelligent is in order and when it is not. When a woman does not know her own “strength”, or is coy enough to come across as being genuinely interested in it she is sexier than she could ever hope to be as someone who is “intellectually arrogant”. However when one is telling you that they are in the ivory tower when clearly everyone else knew as much when they entered the room it may as well be your wife on Twitter telling you that she is watching television when you are eating popcorn watching her type the message onto her Blackberry. Sometimes that is funny, and other times that is just annoying.
Smart people do not tell other people that they need for life to be challenging, or that they will not concern themselves with the individual if they are not smart enough; that is just dumb. Not unlike someone who is clearly fashion obsessed telling you that they are fashionable or someone who is really cool talking about how cool they are. There is something to be said for having enough sense to be discrete about your arrogance; unfortunately, it is something that the intellectually stimulated set does not want to hear …