It’s one of those awful things that can happen. Either though chance or blunt detective work, you learn your wife is cheating on you. You may or may not know the details, and you may or may not care how long it’s been going on, or the identity of the man involved; but you do care that you’ve been betrayed and are quite likely feeling angry, hurt and embarrassed. How you behave in such a circumstance could well determine the quality of your life for the next several years. Below are ten suggestions on what to do if you discover your wife is cheating on you.
1 – Get yourself alone. Because no one ever really knows what they are capable of when crises strikes, it’s best to get yourself away from your wife and the circumstances of her infidelity. You don’t want to wind up on the six o’clock news. So, get yourself alone and as far away as you possibly can. It’s probably best to go it alone for awhile, because quite often friends, out of sympathy, can egg you into behavior that may not be in your best interest. Plus, you will definitely need time to think.
2 – Find a healthy and legal way to vent your anger. Pent up rage is a motivating factor in a very large number of acts that its perpetuators come to regret. Therefore, it is best if you can find a way to vent your anger in a way that won’t get you into trouble. Go lift weights, or throw rocks around in the desert. Head to the gym and try sparring with someone, or go running. Whatever it is that will help you let off steam in a good healthy manner, go do it, right away.
3 – Consider your options. Once you’ve blown off some steam, find a calm place to sit and think through your options. You may or may not have the option of reconciling with your wife, and you may or may not even want to consider such a plan. But the thing you do want to do, is figure out what to do in the immediate future. Will you move out? Will she? Will you pretend you don’t know till you do know what to do? Will you confront her? If so, what will you do afterward? Catching your wife cheating brings up a lot more issues than you’d probably have thought of before it happened to you. Give yourself plenty of time to think through all of your options. Then sit and think some more, because you’ll likely change your mind several times.
4 – Make a plan. Once you have thought through all of your options, you need to come up with a plan of some sort. For example, if you choose to confront her, how will you go about it? In person? On the phone? And what will you do afterward? Will you go stay in a motel? Then you need to plan to make sure you have a room reserved somewhere. Or if you figure you can stay at a friend’s house, it’s probably best to contact that friend first and make sure it’s okay. The bottom line is, before you do anything, you need to know how you are going to go about doing it.
5 – Carry out your plan. Finally, once you have a plan in mind, do whatever it is you’ve planned. Just be sure that it won’t get you into legal or other trouble. And be sure that you do carry it out because when you are talking to your cheating wife, you might find yourself getting angry again and unable to make the best decisions.
These five suggestions on what to do if you discover your wife is cheating on you are for any man that is married or is likely to be some day. As they say, it’s always better to think ahead than to be caught off guard. If you are a man, I hope you take these suggestions to heart, just in case this awful circumstance happens to you. Good luck.