It happens all the time. You have a buddy that you hang with or know from work. You get along great and things are going smoothly, then bam, just like that he introduces you to his new girl friend, or maybe it’s his wife. Either way, you find yourself instantly attracted to her. Even worse, your attraction to her seems to grow stronger as time passes. Suddenly, your life has been turned upside down and you don’t know what to do. Well, here are five good tips on what to do if you’re attracted to your friend’s girl.
1 – Tell yourself no. This is a very important first step. No matter how strongly you feel towards her, no matter how hot she is. No matter anything. Tell yourself that she is your friend’s girl and you cannot have her, simple as that. There are several reasons for this, the first of which of course is that you could lose your friend. But another reason is that you could wind up losing some of your own self respect in the process. In addition, you could lose some other friends over the whole thing and even alienate your family. Trying to steal your buddy’s girl is simply one of those things people won’t accept.
2 – Keep it to yourself. Another thing you need to do is to keep your infatuation to yourself. Don’t tell your other friends. Don’t tell your family or co-workers. Don’t tell anyone. In doing so you open the door to intrigue and secrets which will only come back to haunt you.
3 – Avoid being alone with her. As for the girl, try to stay away from her without making it obvious. Avoid talking to her or being alone with her. This is all doubly true if you suspect the attraction might be mutual.
4 – Force yourself to focus on someone else. As much as you may find yourself obsessing about this girl, try to get your mind on someone else. Look around you, the world is full of attractive women. Go out with some of them. Date them. Have fun; anything to remind yourself that there are other girls out there and some of them might be just what you are looking for.
5 – Let time pass. As strong as your feelings towards this girl may be, they will diminish if you distance yourself from her and focus on other girls. Don’t get caught up in the moment. As more time passes you’ll find your desire for her will lessen as your subconscious grows to accept that you will never have her.
These five good tips on what to do if you find you’re attracted to your friend’s girl can and should be used by any guy who finds himself wanting to have his buddy’s girl. If you are such a person, I hope you take these tips very seriously. Take care and good luck.