Why does it seem like nice guys always finish last? So many women always say they want a nice man, who will treat them right, but they always end up with the bad boys! Their reasoning is, the nice guy was a turn off in some way. Did he turn you off when he asked how your day was going? Did he turn you off when he pulled out your chair, held your hand, rubbed your feet, surprised you with flowers, rubbed your shoulders, or offered to take you on vacation? Women, why do you ask for a nice man and then push him away because he is too nice? It makes no sense whatsoever!
Men, you need to give a deserving woman the special treatment. It is okay for you to keep your guards up and observe the woman. Make sure a woman likes you for who you are and not for what you have, or what you can do for her. You don’t want to be used by a manipulative temptress. Feel free to take her around your friends and family. I know that is not always a smart move, but sometimes they can notice something about a person you can’t see. It’s always easier from the outside looking in. A woman can fool you for a long time concealing her ulterior motives. Luckily your mother, or any close friend or relative, can usually spot this artificial facade out quickly.
Women, you need to make up your minds! Either you want the bad boy or the nice guy. You cannot have it both ways. You can’t say that you are unable to find a good man, and complain about never being able to find someone to take you out and treat you like a lady, while all your relationships are with the men you have met from the club and/or bars. There are plenty of nice men that are searching for love but you won’t give him the time of day, because he, “turns you off” or “isn’t your type”.
Are we, as women, sending the message to nice guys that, in order to get the girl of your dreams, you have to alter your great personalities, and transform into this rough being? What kind of world do we live in if that is the basis of our argument? I strongly believe there is someone for everyone. If we take off the blinders and truly open our minds and hearts to love, then we won’t be disappointed.
Nice guys have been raised well. They have manners, know how to treat a lady, appreciate your mind, soul, spirit, and body. A nice man is willing to learn and accept changes within the relationship in order for it to flourish adequately. There are millions of nice guys and real gentlemen out here that are always getting stiffed for the thug, gangster, or bad boy, and it is not fair! A nice guy is proud to be in a relationship and brags about his woman’s accomplishments like a proud parent with a scholarly child.
Nice guys, do not allow yourself to be played or taken advantage of. Do not allow these women to come to you with sob stories to weasel money out of you for whatever reason. If you notice a woman will have sex with you and be all over you in the house, but refuses to invite you to social settings out in public? Does she then proclaim she is not ready for a relationship or you are simply not her type? This woman is using you for your sex and/or money and has no intentions of building a relationship with you. just because you are nice does not constitute a woman to use you and play with your heart.
Lastly, nice guys, you have to stop picking up the pieces when her ideal bad boy disassembles her heart. Don’t allow her to disregard you, date, and have children by all of these no good guys, then come crying to you when Mr. Bad Boy has walked out of her life. You are not Mr. Fix it! You deserve a woman that is complete and in control of her life so that you two can build a healthy relationship together.
Nice guys do not have to finish last, if they love themselves enough to NOT become a doormat in the quest for love! Nice guys are the best guys and will always be the first on my list.