Whenever you are in the midst of a disagreement or argument there is one thing that you know for certain, the other person is ‘always right,’ or at least they think they are. After all that’s what started the argument in the first place right? The other person always thinks they are right and you always think you are right and you couldn’t possibly allow the person to continue on throughout their life thinking these wrong thoughts could you? Thus begins the discussion process to help them to think logically, after all what you think is always right and better than what others think.
So it begins, you explain your side of the story, you put it in terms that you think make it so that no logical person on earth could possibly disagree. Yet to your surprise, when you take a deep breath and attempt to confirm with the person that they have now opened their eyes to the real reality of things you find that they still think they are right.
It becomes a vicious loop that continues on, you explain, they refuse, you explain, they refuse. Eventually, they might start to explain their side to you, but, your always right too. The argument continues on and on until you run out of time, or you become utterly exhausted and cant think of any other way to explain your position differently so that they might understand that they are not always right, and that you are, and that they should see your view.
The reason behind the I’m right, Your right dance? We are very intelligent logical beings, to think that we were wrong, even part of the time wouldn’t be logical. Lets break this down for a moment. I say I’m always right, and you think no your not actually your usually wrong. Well, the key here is that I ‘think’ I am always right, there is a huge difference between what I think and what the reality is. The reality says I could very much be wrong, but what I think is always right. You read that correctly, your spouse, boss, kids, always think they’re right and they are.
It’s easiest to understand if you think of it in terms of what if they thought they were wrong. If you think that you are wrong then the logical side of you will step in, assess your knowledge, therefore changing your thinking so that you think you are right again. It wouldn’t be very logical to run around claiming that you know your wrong, in fact it would be outright stupid. Our brains work like processing machines, every time something new is put into your processor the data is analyzed, organized, and eventually stored. Every time you process new information your thinking is subject to change. Your old thinking was based on a series of knowledge that you had gained throughout your life, this new knowledge could easily add information leading to a shift in what you think is right.
If during the course of an argument you were able to input new information into the other persons processor that would make them think they were wrong you might find success in getting them to think that they were wrong. At this point they would change their thinking so that they would think they were right again.
The next time someone spits out the you always think your right line, you can proudly say yes I do, because if I didn’t that would be completely illogical, and stupid.
If I didn’t think I was right, I would reevaluate my thinking and change it so that I thought I was right again. Nobody in their right mind thinks that they are always wrong now do they?